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Common Responses

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The most common responses are outlined here. You probably have experienced these many times in your life.

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Top Three Responses 3 Lessons

Anxiety Arousal

Symptoms of anxiety including Post Trauma, include but are not limited to:

Fatigue, restlessness, or sweating are common physical symptoms.

Many people report a lack of concentration, racing thoughts, or unwanted thoughts.
 
You might feel behavior such as hypervigilance or irritability
 
Also; anxiety, excessive worry, fear, feeling of impending doom, insomnia, nausea, palpitations, or trembling can result.
 
Which of the above have you experienced?

Depression

Mood and "mind" thoughts, can be depressive in response to the environment or state.

Interestingly, anxiety is also a symptom of depression.

You might feel anxiety, apathy, general discontent, guilt, hopelessness, loss of interest, loss of interest or pleasure in activities, mood swings, or sadness
sleep is often disrupted; unwanted early awakening, excess sleepiness, insomnia, or restless sleep
Excessive hunger, fatigue, loss of appetite, or restlessness are common "food" related responses.
Agitation, excessive crying, irritability, or social isolation are common responses as is lack of concentration, slowness in activity or thoughts of suicide. (Please contact 911 or your nearest clinic or emergency room if you feel self-harm or harm to others).
Weight can go up or down, and mind-racing is another result.
 
Based upon ALL of this (some people might say "wow I feel some of these often), which are the ones that trouble you the most?
 

Anger

The anger response is huge.

In addition to the actual feeling of "anger" or rage, that can include impatience and irritability, the following symptoms can result...

  • Tingling.
  • Heart palpitations or tightening of the chest.
  • Increased blood pressure.
  • Headaches.
  • Pressure in the head or sinus cavities *this is so common! I have had so many clients who thought that they had chronic allergies or sinus issues and it was their chronic anger causing the problems. This is why all of their rounds of antibiotics never seemed to work. 
  • Fatigue. *We associate anger with wanting to act out, but anger is exhausting. Many chronically angry people sleep and nap often, and have disrupted sleep.

3 Emotional Wall Responses 3 Lessons

Intrusive

One wall that we have is post-trauma; these are intrusive thoughts, flashbacks, and feelings of the past being in the present. I included this in "walls" because this limits the experiencer to such an extent it can stop them from being in the present.

How often has something from the past seemed to haunt you? Maybe in a nightmare or you didn't trust someone based on a past experience, or an actual flashback that felt like a living nightmare?

Defensive

Defensive behaviors and feelings are feelings of avoidance and can be mind and feeling.  

These are behaviors that stop us from moving forward in life.

Many people who are describing this call it "sticking up for myself" or "I don't want to get hurt first, so I left the relationship before it got bad" and those types of terminology.

Have you felt this way? Don't confuse this though with actually having a boundary and someone telling you that you are defensive because you support your boundary.

Dissociation

Feeling numb, empty, void, without purpose, uncaring, or depersonalization are all feelings of dissociation. 

When in your life did you feel like this and what do you feel prompted it?

Confusion Responses 3 Lessons

Sexuality

Sexual concerns and sexual behavior that is dysfunctional are areas that are often, a stress response.

Sexual dissatisfaction, dysfunction, and unwanted sexual thoughts can be isolating and bring more stress. There is also the danger of sexual behavior that might be self-harming in nature, high-risk activity with risk to health and well-being (and life) and also inappropriate behaviors, touching, and boundaries.

These all can be brought on because of stress; as we are more and more stressed, we become more and more isolated in our thoughts and less comfortable with boundaries and healthy experiences. We are in survival mode, and sexuality is deeply connected to survival from an evolutionary space.

 

Self Response

Impaired self-reference is all things "self". 

Identity confusion, purpose loss, a feeling of isolation. This also includes a perceived lack of support.

Have you felt this way? Often those who have been in toxic relationships report among other responses, this one is almost always in the top three.

Tension Reduction Outburst

Unlike say, working out to as a preventative, the person who is feeling tension outbursts might be having self-mutilation, overwork, angry outbursts, and high tension behaviors. These are usually quite visible.

Lets's explore; how do you connect to this if at all?

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