About this course
Stress "shows up" in our bodies and minds in a variety of ways.
Having a better understanding of your responses will help you to self-heal.
This course outlines the most common responses.
The most common responses are outlined here. You probably have experienced these many times in your life.
Symptoms of anxiety including Post Trauma, include but are not limited to:
Fatigue, restlessness, or sweating are common physical symptoms.
Mood and "mind" thoughts, can be depressive in response to the environment or state.
Interestingly, anxiety is also a symptom of depression.
The anger response is huge.
In addition to the actual feeling of "anger" or rage, that can include impatience and irritability, the following symptoms can result...
One wall that we have is post-trauma; these are intrusive thoughts, flashbacks, and feelings of the past being in the present. I included this in "walls" because this limits the experiencer to such an extent it can stop them from being in the present.
How often has something from the past seemed to haunt you? Maybe in a nightmare or you didn't trust someone based on a past experience, or an actual flashback that felt like a living nightmare?
Defensive behaviors and feelings are feelings of avoidance and can be mind and feeling.
These are behaviors that stop us from moving forward in life.
Many people who are describing this call it "sticking up for myself" or "I don't want to get hurt first, so I left the relationship before it got bad" and those types of terminology.
Have you felt this way? Don't confuse this though with actually having a boundary and someone telling you that you are defensive because you support your boundary.
Feeling numb, empty, void, without purpose, uncaring, or depersonalization are all feelings of dissociation.
When in your life did you feel like this and what do you feel prompted it?
Sexual concerns and sexual behavior that is dysfunctional are areas that are often, a stress response.
Sexual dissatisfaction, dysfunction, and unwanted sexual thoughts can be isolating and bring more stress. There is also the danger of sexual behavior that might be self-harming in nature, high-risk activity with risk to health and well-being (and life) and also inappropriate behaviors, touching, and boundaries.
These all can be brought on because of stress; as we are more and more stressed, we become more and more isolated in our thoughts and less comfortable with boundaries and healthy experiences. We are in survival mode, and sexuality is deeply connected to survival from an evolutionary space.
Impaired self-reference is all things "self".
Identity confusion, purpose loss, a feeling of isolation. This also includes a perceived lack of support.
Have you felt this way? Often those who have been in toxic relationships report among other responses, this one is almost always in the top three.
Unlike say, working out to as a preventative, the person who is feeling tension outbursts might be having self-mutilation, overwork, angry outbursts, and high tension behaviors. These are usually quite visible.
Lets's explore; how do you connect to this if at all?
We will write a short essay about and to, our stress. You may include it here or you may do it on your own. The lesson has more details. This is very healing and a foundation of healing by communicating inner thoughts that rise upward.
In the space provided, write to your stress.
It can be just a paragraph or an essay, even a poem - but base it upon the responses that you just read about.
You have been speaking to me in the form of high blood pressure, insomnia and feeling depressed. I would like for us to manage stress better, so I would like you to start reminding me to take three deep breaths or, take a nice gentle walk.
When I was little, I used to hide and eat to stop the sound of my parents fighting. As an adult, I have battled with weight all of my life. I feel anxious and I sleep all of the time; I feel lazy. I'm not. I'm a scared child inside. I am sick of picking the wrong partners in my love life who argue just like my parents did. From now on, I'm not going to always "eat" my feelings so, I'm going to start taking courses and meditating and you'll just have to get used to it - signed, empowered.
underneath the stress
a wild bird flutters freedom
i commit to peace
... now your turn-- get creative.
I'm proud of you for going through this course. It was hopefully, peacefully illuminating. Meaning, you learned more about yourself but also you accepted that you are more in control of your stress than you thought. It's a short course and just a beginning...
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