Written by Guest Expert: Trilby Johnson
Empowered living, calls for engagement and being present. There is no short cut or quick fix – only implementation and fine-tuning. So it’s great to have practical tools handy, that can be applied quickly and effectively to gain clarity and get results, right?
Depending on our education and upbringing, we may already possess these tools and be living a happy, healthy and successful life with few problems on the way. If this is not the scenario, this could be due to the fact that, although we have the tools, we have not received the correct training on HOW to use these tools.
Where the confusion can arise, is when we receive mixed messages around the appropriateness of ‘asking’ - that the majority of us have. For instance, when a parent tells a child that they ask too many questions and shows irritation. Or when a question is asked and the reply is sarcastic or disparaging. So the manner in which our asking has been received, will and does leave an impression on us.
As adults and empowered individuals however, it is important to consciously break through this conditioning. And paradoxically, the most effective way I found to do this is... yes, by using asking and questioning.
In this article, I share three ways that I have used ASKING to shift from feeling disempowered, unseen, lacking confidence and direction in life, to feeling empowered, confident, getting positive tangible results and finding purpose in daily life.
1. ASK for Bigger and Better
For a long time in my life I was afraid to ask for things. And so I got very little, which fed my fears even more. Until one day I realized that every time I did not ask, the answer would be NO – guaranteed. I shifted my mindset and gave myself permission to ask all kinds of questions – even those others thought stupid, too much or annoying – how someone responds to a question says more about their mindset than it does about the question asked.
I found that asking empowers and I like the feeling of greater possibilities and expansion. ASKING is a fabulous tool for active and conscious creation! And the bigger and better we ask, the more success and prosperity we are inviting in. Asking for bigger and better doesn’t mean being arrogant. It can however mean being more abundant!
Ask more. Questions more often. Make bigger and better requests!
2. ASK to RECEIVE
So Ask and it is Given, right? Yes. If you are willing to receive. When asking a question, be clear about being willing and open to receive what will come in. Quite often, people miss an opportunity simply because they expect something to look or happen in a specific way. When it doesn’t, they conclude that they are unlucky, not good enough, got something wrong or not worthy enough. On a deeper level, it’s simply due to not being in alignment with receiving what was asked for.
When ASKING, we are using our voices and it’s important to ask with the attitude of already having what we are asking for. I believe in the law of attraction – where like attracts like - and asking enables me to state my intention, so that matching opportunities can show up. Many of us have been made to feel afraid of asking and so when we do, it comes from a feeling of supplication, not empowerment.
When we ask and feel empowered, it’s like placing a meal order with the waiter - the majority of the time, the meal will arrive seamlessly. Yet many of us don’t ask from this mindset for what we really want and then our order gets muddled.
Ask from a mindset of confidence and of receiving and having the desire outcome.
3. ASK to KNOW
A frequent response by many when asked a question is, ‘I don’t know’. In my opinion, this stems from the way we have been conditioned to give the ‘right answer’ and consequently the subconscious fear of ‘getting it wrong’.
Yet if we consider words as vibrational frequencies, imagine the vibration of these words. Do they evoke confidence or empower? Seldom, in my experience. There is no asking in the words ‘I don’t know’ is there?
If we come back to the example of ordering a meal, imagine when the waiter comes to take the order and the reply is, ‘I don’t know’. This stop things completely.
So a great solution is... ASK another question! This will open up the energy of possibilities again and is more empowering. We often do this instinctively, however, when applied consciously, it will transform often mundane patterns into something new and exciting.
Admittedly, as humans there are moments when we feel overwhelmed or confused. In these instances, rather than say, ‘I don’t know’ which will block any possible information showing up - stop, breathe several times, then ask a new question. For example, ‘what’s the special of the day?’, ‘what can I do next?’, ‘what is possible for me now?’, ‘Show me?!’. This last one can be used as an empowering question or declaration. Really observe the feelings that accompany the questions when asked, as they are vibrational guides.
Asking allows each of us to ‘feel your way’ to a better option.
In conclusion, I have found through consistently using and applying and playing with these three ways of asking, my life has blossomed and I feel more empowered and aligned in my body, mind and soul today. If you are interested to learn more information around this subject, you may be interested in the webinar ‘Make Questioning Your Superpower for Effective Conscious Living’.
Through ASKING, we open up to receiving and are claiming that we wish to know, making it possible for more opportunities to show up and perhaps more significantly, we will be receptive to them. A sign of wisdom is knowing how to ask for something we desire, whether of ourselves or another person, as well as where to find the resources and people needed to make it happen.
To ASK is a simple, effective, empowering and powerful tool we have at our disposal to fuel happier, healthier and successful lives. It's a practical way to add light to any situation.
Trilby Johnson facilitates Emotional Breakthrough Alchemy and Coaching and is an Author and Speaker. Her passion is the body and its central role in the integration of body, mind, spirit. Educating and facilitating others in the possibilities of emotional freedom and healing is paramount to her. She has a degree in Psychology and is certified in NLP, Holistic Massage and Reiki, as well as Advanced Healing Processes.
Trilby lives in New Zealand and facilitates healing worldwide. She loves to travel, garden, enjoy life, read, hike and spend time with her friends and cat.
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