In this Haiku exercise, we will look at the concept of “choices”.
We often think that if we have choices, we are better off. We are often stunned when people make decisions based upon having very little choices, such as people who might marry their very first love or people who know what they wanted to do for a living since childhood.
Is having choices then, really important for having happiness?
We've been conditioned to think that options equate to happiness, or at least to more success. However, nothing really proves that theory.
We know that people, when faced with many choices, actually have a harder time discerning which choice will “make them happy”. We have met people that put off settling down and truly committing, because there are other potential choices. We have seen people who have a cyclic relationship pattern of every two years there is a new love, or ever couple of months, a new job opportunity, every few weeks, a new answer to their diet struggles, every year, a new “better” technology or car.
These are people always looking outward, ahead and who are too far in the spectrum of external-base, to actually enjoy the moment. There is a benefit to looking ahead and never being satisfied; it gives us reason to complain, to feel less-than, to be void. If that is our norm, if for some reason we have been told to be less than; we might fulfill it by looking for external success, love, happiness or contentment.
We might not even be able to be happy with our families; there is always a better mom, dad, sibling, house, yard, neighborhood, isn't there?
So, how do we learn to circle back and look inward? To negate the need for choices in the first place?
We have to look at what makes us truly happy, in the here and now.
Create a haiku, one that is only 5-7-5, and make this haiku be solely about the idea that choices need not be present in your life for happiness.
I will show you an example.
Dryer buzzer, bzzzzz!
My favorite sweater shrank
Runner up, your turn!
This haiku shows not only accepting some suffering, but in the moment, in my fictional experience, me as the author is left with only one option, the second favorite sweater.
This shows that having minimal choices is actually enjoyable or uplifting in some way; there is no confusion, only clarity.
Create a 5-7-5 haiku, real or fictional, that describes the idea of choices being a block to our feeling happiness.