Females of all ages go through unique challenges, situations and transitions.
Relationship struggles, achievement challenges and coping with the often sudden transitions of life (Giving birth, hormonal weight gain, menopause body changes, to name a few) while “normal” are often stress-filled.
There are also the “not normal” but common struggles such as:
- Disordered Eating
- Body Image Issues
Many of these are misunderstood. The media and banter on social networking often portrays, for instance, Disordered Eating as sole women or girls “competing with models” or “photoshopped magazines”. This is often not the case at all. Often, it is struggling with self-loathing, feeling like one is not enough, wanting to vanish, and reaction to trauma. It is patronizing and ignorant, to assume that anorexia or obesity are just struggles to be “prettier”.
Rape and sexual assault, are one of those areas that we might warn our daughters or friends about, but we don't discuss in detail. It's uncomfortable and we hope that it never happens. Statistically, more than 50% of females will experience some form of assault.
A few points to remember:
- No matter what, you are not to blame for what happened. The person who attacked you is the only person to blame.
- Surviving a sexual assault, means that you, in the face of danger, did what you needed to, in order to survive. It might mean you did not fight back. It might mean that you blanked out or went on auto-pilot. These are coping strategies to survive mentally, emotionally and physically.
- You might be experiencing many symptoms and reactions or hardly at all; you might be numb or in denial. These are all normal, and can fluctuate and change. Often, the anniversary of the assault is very tedious.
- You might start to notice that you have to work harder to be engaged emotionally with friends, a partner, or the world around you. You experienced loss and healing takes time. Each person is different. There is no cookie-cutter way to cope with assault.
- If you were a victim of repeated assault, such as surviving years of incest or a “coach” or other authority figure or adult, including a manipulating boss, you may have increased numbness or, responses.
There are certain things you need to remember:
- You should file a report.
- You should seek medical attention and get a rape kit, if possible.
- Partake in self-care, giving yourself time and a safe space to process and heal.
- Create safety planning options so that you can live fully, without fear or, high risk behaviors that might result.
If this is a crisis, you should call 911
If you are an adult, age 18+, or the mother of a daughter who was assaulted, you are invited to the Sacred Support membership (it is free) for the [online] sensitive, general feminine enrichment, healing and exploration.
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